Dear friends,
I might not update this blog anymore… but don’t worry for you who like to read my blog, coz I have another blog: rosie. So please feel free to visit that page, and read on~
Have nice day!!!!!!!!! 
This morning I woke up remembering my dream~~ weird dream.
Okay, let me tell you what I dreamt of….
I was walking on a pathway, then suddenly there were 2 fierce dogs approaching me, ready to attack me! I was scared at the beginning (while they were on their way), then slowly calmness came into me. My calmness came from Metta~~ the weird part is that I was conscious enough to know that I was practising metta!~~ then I chanted "Amitabha" or else "Om Mani Pad Me Hom" (I think the former was the one I chanted, I vaguely remember which one actually). The dogs eventually reached me, and wanted to jumped over me with their mouths wide opened yet didn’t (or couldn’t) bite me. But, in my dream, I couldn’t even hear their barking sounds, even though their mouths were opened. I was chanting and chanting, but there were moments when my concentration was off, then the dogs started to get more aggressive. Realising that, I put more concentration on the mantra.
Luckily, before the dogs managed to bite me, I opened my eyes~~~ *phiuh* Weird ey??
I sometimes find that everytime I dreamt of something scary (like this), I tend to chant mantra in my dream. It seems that there is some level of consciousness playing part here. I don’t understand, but it seems like it.
Well, so what is dream mean? I don’t know. What I know that I dreamt of 2 aggressive dogs….
Well, for those who are having exams soon, GOOD LUCK! All the best!
"I don’t believe in complete honesty in a relationship. I think we have
to keep our secrets. I think that secrets are an important part of
keeping a relationship alive." -Goldie Hawn
I just read this entry posted by a friend of mine on Facebook~~ It is nice to know that there is a spiritual celebrity. Sometimes it is hard to believe that the Hollywood superstars would be interested in spirituality. But, again, they came from different backgrounds. So yeah, it is possible!
Actually, I’m also interested in spirituality, not religion per se. Maybe due to this reason, I’m interested in Buddhism~~ and open my mind to values taught in various religions. I think all religions have the same purpose: to live this life peacefully and harmoniously. So yeah, actually doesn’t really matter which religion you believe in, because what we aim is the same: peace. But unfortunately, not many people realize this. They have been too attached to their own ‘identity’ and get swung away from the core meaning/teaching of the religions itself.
Oh yeah, let me add something that is not so relevant to this topic. I want to mention something about jail. I think putting the crims into jail has goods and bads. It is good because it is a system to ‘prevent’ people to do crimes, since the idea of jail can be terrifying. But for somehow it doesn’t really solve the problem. It can be a preventive measure, but not solving though. Let me explain. Imagine, you have been put into bail~~ then the jail officer (sometimes– or my perception) is mean to you. Your inmates all are crims too. You all have at least committed crime once (or convicted so). Then due to the mean treatment, you started to rebel against the officer, and create a good bond with your inmates since you share the same ‘misery’. That is the picture inside the jail. When you’re out of it, and want to start anew, the society makes it harder. For example, you want to apply for a good job (e.g., office job), but in your interview, you are asked about your background. And when the employer figures out that you were an inmate before, you would be sacked or wouldnt be hired. *Sigh* It runs in a cycle.
Solution of it in my head is: forgiveness and acceptance. But can we do it is another question. It is not easy to trust someone who has done a crime. It is just in our psyche that the person might do the same again~~~ But if we all can accept and forgive them, we might be able to suppress the criminal level….
Well, its just a random scratch from me… 
Have a nice day!
AFL… Footie? Mm not in my entry 
AFL stands for Acknowledge, Forgive, and Let go. I quote it from Ajahn Brahm’s talk. It is very creative and profound of him to come up with the abbreviation. Smart.
How many times do we punish ourselves because we’ve done mistake? How many time do we criticize ourselves so harshly? How many times do we hurt ourselves because of our stupidity? Well~~~ I guess the answers are MANY.
Forgiveness is very important. It is an act of love. Forgiving yourself is also a part of loving your own self. A complete forgiveness is not easy but very loving. Forgiving needs a lot of courage and strength. Forgiveness allows a room for mistakes. We are imperfect, none of us is (in general). So why do we have to hurt ourselves out of our mistakes? Mistakes are there to learn, not to condemn. We can grow through pain. So pain is your life coach.
So yeah~~~ acknowledge your pain, mistakes, your stupidity– then out of compassion forgive yourself —- and let the pain or feeling go. If you can do it to yourself with much capacity, you also can do it for others. Before loving yourself completely, it is hard to love others completely….
So, start with yourself. Apply AFL in your life. Acknowledge, Forgive, and Let go…. ^_________^
This afternoon, on my walk to Eastgarden, I was flashing back my past for a moment… I just felt so grateful to the ones who cared about me: my parents, my brothers, my relos (esp my Aunts and uncle who looked after me while I was away from my parents). I can’t imagine this world without love. I think no one can survive without love.
So yeah~~~ I just wanna write out that I feel grateful for everything! Thanks so much!! All this is immeasurable….
I really wonder why romantic movies always have a kissing moment. Is it an expression of love? Is it an affection? Is it the true love? I dont know. But I reckon, this kissing has somehow demeaned the real meaning of love. I see kissing is partly as an act of affection, partly is an act of desire. Desire always follows a passionate kissing. So does kissing equate love? I guess not.
Kissing can be an act of desire or an act of affection. Pure love is not desire. But I wouldn’t say that desire is a bad guy here. Desire is just desire. It is something that makes you ‘want’ something.
And because affectionate kissing normally comes with desire, people subtly can discern these two. They might think that they love this person despite the truth that it is desire that creep in them. This is when problems normally arise. This misunderstanding might cause a relationship break up.
Yeah~~~ again, kissing doesn’t equate love. It might be just simply a desire…..
Today I’d like to share an article of a newspaper (Sunday Telegraph) from my favorite section (quiet now). It’s written by Paul Wilson. I like to read his writing~~ it shows deep insight and wisdom.
Okay~~ keep reading, and hopefully it would shad away the shadow over your head.
The world is a very different place, depending on whose eyes you’re looking through.
You’re in luck. Today I want to share with you the three ways of approaching life which, depending on which one you choose, can be the difference between success and failure, happiness and unhappiness, good health and misery, salvation and damnation (if you are of such a mind), enlightenment and ignorance.
Let’s start with the two that are most familiar to you. They work like this: person A and person B look out a window onto a fairly standard cityscape - houses, buildings, traffic, noise, and so on.
Person A sees a field of opportunity and potential. She can see buildings full of relatively good people who, even if they aren’t particularly happy at this moment, have the opportunity of soon becoming so.
Person B can’t see anything like that. He sees buildings full of people whose lives are being destroyed by ill health, duplicity, violence, poverty and inequality. Although they’re looking at the same cityscape, A and B are experiencing two entirely different worlds.
What’s your world view?
You might be inclined to write off these differences as emotional interpretations of one event. But it is more fundamental than that. Your world view will always be different to mine. Intellectually, we can rationalise that we are observing the same scene, but deep down we’ll always suspect the other is misinterpreting. This is true.
The world you experience is different to mine. Academics say that there is some sort of objective reality that is the same for all people, but I don’t agree.
The world you experience is simply what you perceive and what you choose to believe is there. Nothing more.
The beauty of this understanding is that it presents you with a choice of how you experience life: you can choose to see the uplifting side, or you can choose to see the miserable side. Both sides are there.
You can objectively assess a situation or event, then consciously moderate how you respond to it.
Accentuate the positive
If you want to feel better, choose positive… simple as that. Some will say this is being delusionary (I don’t) but it’s empowering to know that you have some control over the way you feel. Just search out the positive. Even the greatest disaster has a positive side: for example, if people learn from it, or if society changes, or if families grow closer as a result.
You can even take a more holistic approach to making your experience of life more positive. For example, you can start to substitute carefully chosen words and ideas that emphasise a positive style of thinking.
Make them part of your thoughts and conversations. Interventions like these are a powerful way of changing the way you think and responds to events.
There you have two of the ways you can approach life - the positive and the negative.
There is a third. And, for my money, it’s the most powerful of all. This is to live mindfully, as it’s happening. Without filtering it with thought, or comparing it with other events. Then you discover that what emerges in life is simply what is - neither positive or negative. Just neutral. And you discover that it is how you respond to this that makes the difference.
In the past I’ve written a number of books encouraging readers to apply a positive perspective to life. It was my belief that with a bit of effort you’d find the good in everything and thereby enjoy life more fully.
If you happen to be living a miserable life right now, this might be just the psychological shortcut you need to get you through to the next level. After that, however the richest way to life is mindfully. To live in the moment. To do everything with 100% of your attention. To limit comparisons and assessments to those times when they’re needed rather than as a constant process of interpreting what you are experiencing.
Then you can accept and observe life as it is, rather than how it should be or how it once was. And if there is a secret to happiness, this is it.
Have you every felt a tingling sensation in your head or between your eyebrows? I can’t describe how it feels exactly, but it feels like tingling or pins and needle (minus the pain). LOL hehehe Funny feeling, but for some reason it’s nice. I get the one between the eyebrows when I concentrate fully on one object and open myself~~ Well, according to some people, they are points of chakras. There are 8 points of chakra, and the three I mentioned are some of them. The one on the head is the highest among all~~ the wisdom. I don’t know what it means and why I feel it, and how I could feel it. But what I know that I have that feeling!
Hehehehe… I just want to share that, coz I think I should pour it out and let it go~~ Cheers!!
Dear my friends,
The nature of things is impermanent, nothing would stay the same forever! For simple example is the weather: today might be raining, but after the rain the sun rises. So, nothing would be for FOREVER. If you look within, your mind would be the same too! It keeps changing! From happy, sad, neutral, angry, upset, grumpy, judging, etc. Keep watching your mind and you would see that it would move from one state to another. One second you would feel good, but as seconds pass by, you might feel bad. Having realised this, it would be more prudent if we let go of the clinging to things since they would change. Letting go of them would make us be more peaceful and happy.
Ask yourself, what is your purpose in life? Is life about pursuing ‘material’ happiness? Or is it about living happily? If you think that material possessions can make you happy, then look at the wealthy! How many of them are contented? How many of them have peace at their hearts? I reckon, the more you reach out for material possessions, the more you feel unhappy. Worry would be your second friend.
Then how are can we be happy??? How can we let go and feel peaceful at the same time?
Well, find it out on Bodhinite 2007, 25th August @ 6-10 pm.
Yayy!! Would leave for Bundanoon tomorrow. Will go to Sunnataram Forest Monastery (it is located in Bundanoon). I’d return on Sunday. So folks, dont miz me!!!!!
HAVE A NICE DAY for y’all!
